People who do not live according to the Qur’an’s morals cannot love or be loved in the true sense of the word. For real love to be mutual, both people must love Allah with deep respect and should demonstrate those morals that gain Allah’s good pleasure. Allah will place love in the hearts of His beloved servants and ensure that other people will love them. It should not be forgotten that Allah is the real source and owner of love. To enable someone to live with true love, which is of great value and a great blessing, a person should seek to be worthy of this blessing by adhering to the Qur’an’s morals, and should pray that Allah bestows true love. People who do not adhere to the Qur’an’s morals live a life bereft of true knowledge, hope, and true friends in both worlds.
Allah informs us that love is a blessing that He bestows upon us:
And affection and purity from Us—he had fear [and respect]. (Surah Maryam, 13)
As for those who believe and do right actions, the All-Merciful will bestow His love upon them. (Surah Maryam, 96)
Among His signs is that He created spouses for you of your own kind so that you might find tranquility in them. And He has placed affection and compassion between you. There are certainly signs in that for people who reflect. (Surat ar-Rum, 21)
Given below are some of the characteristics Allah considers to be worthy of true love:
TO BE SELF-SACRIFICING
Do not direct your eyes longingly to what We have given certain of them to enjoy. Do not feel sad concerning them. And take the believers under your wing. (Surat al-Hijr, 88)
Some people who do not believe in Allah and the Hereafter judge this world to be a place of great struggle, and therefore believe that the strong will inevitably overcome the weak. This view, the product of a completely mistaken way of thinking, is based on driving people away from good morals and seeking to protect their own gains and interests. A community that is ruled according to such claims sees no need to help those who need assistance; to be self-sacrificing or concerned about another person’s welfare, happiness, and ease; to put his or her interests above their own. Subsequently, such activities are avoided because they bring no benefits to those who engage in them.
Thus, these people cannot really love one another, for people cannot truly love those who think of their own welfare before they think of somebody else’s. For example, people who experience another person’s selfishness feel their love for that person die slowly. If a person only thinks about his own comfort, keeping a delicious meal or a comfortable bed for himself, and not thinking about his or her neighbors, this will inevitably shatter the love felt for that person. Since people regularly witness this type of behavior, they subconsciously hold a negative view point toward such people. Read more