What Does Islam say About Abuse? (+Video)

Mohammad, The Beloved Prophet of Allaah, advised one Muslim woman – whose name was Fatimah bint Qais-  not to marry a man because the man was known for being harsh  with women:

“I went to the Prophet and said: Abul Jahm and Mu’awiah have proposed to marry me. The Prophet (by way of advice) said: As to Mu’awiah he is very poor and Abul Jahm is accustomed to beating women” Sahih Muslim

It is haram (prohbited) for a man to ever strike the face of a Muslimah, for any reason, or to any degree. This statement is not a support for abusing women in a way that may potentially harm her, but a condementation of striking the face:

Narrated by Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri:
Mu’awiyah asked: Apostle of Allah, what is the right of the wife of one of us over him? He replied: “That you should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her or separate yourself from her except in the house.” Sunan of Abu Dawood,


The Prophet, (  peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said  ( which means), “Abusing a Muslim is a sin, and killing him is disbelief.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

“The Prophet never beat any of his wives or servants; in fact, he did not strike any living being with his hand except in the cause of Allah or when the prohibitions of Allah had been violated, and he retaliated on behalf of Allah.” (An-Nasaa’i)

The Prophet said: “When the people see a cruel person is committing aggression, and do not prevent him, it is likely that Allah would afflect them with His chastisement.” (Abu Dawud, Tirmithi, An-Nisaa’i)

The Prophet said: “Allah does not punish the individuals for the sins of the community until they see the evil spreading among themselves, and while they have the power to stop it, do not do so.” (Ahmad)

Allah, swt, commands the believers to “Enjoin the good and forbid the evil.” (see Qur’an 3/104, 3/110,

Verbal Abuse

Allaah says ( which means): “And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, bear on themselves the crime of slander and plain sin.” The Noble Qur’an – AlAhzab 33:58
… ‘Abd Allah reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, “A believer is not a fault-finder and is not abusive, obscene, or course.” Hadith – Bukhari’s Book of Manners #313, Ahmad, Ibn Hibban, and HakimHadith – Al-Tirmidhi

“A believer is never a person who scoffs at others, calls them names, or utters vulgar and obscene phrases” Hadith – Bukhari’s Book of Manners #313, Ahmad, Ibn Hibban, and Hakim


Punishment for the Abuser


Punishment for the Abuser

  the punishment may be that the same or similar may be done in return.

And if you punish (your enemy, O you believers in the Oneness of Allâh), then punish them with the like of that with which you were afflicted. But if you endure patiently, verily, it is better for As-Sâbirin (the patient ones, etc.).  The Noble Qur’an – 3:126

The retribution for abuse should not exceed the original abuse.

“If two people abuse each other, the fault lies upon the one who began the abuse unless the wronged one transgresses.” Hadith – Sahih Muslim